You Have to Make Up Your Mind

Wisdom is learning what to overlook.
        — William James

Did You Ever Have To Make Up Your Mind?
by the Lovin Spoonful

Did you ever have to make up your mind?
You pick up on one and leave the other one behind
It\'s not often easy and not often kind
Did you ever have to make up your mind?

Did you ever have to finally decide?
And say yes to one and let the other one ride
There\'s so many changes and tears you must hide
Did you ever have to finally decide?

Sometimes there\'s one with deep blue eyes, cute as a bunny
With hair down to here and plenty of money
And just when you think she\'s that one in the world
Your heart gets stolen by some mousy little girl

And then you know you better make up your mind
And pick up on one and leave the other one behind
It\'s not often easy and not often kind
Did you ever have to make up your mind?

Sometimes you really dig a girl the moment you kiss her
And then you get distracted by her older sister
When in walks her father and takes you in line
And says, \"Better go home, son, and make up your mind\"

Then you bet you\'d better finally decide
And say yes to one and let the other one ride
There\'s so many changes and tears you must hide
Did you ever have to finally decide?

I\’ve finally figured out that everything on my TODO list is not going be done. Even with care in adding new items, the existing items, plus the essential new items, along with the ongoing, recurring items (e.g. exercise, taxes, picking up the mail), low ranking items will likely never be completed unless their importance or urgency changes.

The Lovin Spoonful song is a lovely, light little ditty that if you pay attention to the words nails the problem. There are often several attractive choices but you can only do one. As the refrain says, \”It\’s not often easy and not often kind.\” Putting off deciding does no one a kindness.

On the TODO list, something will continue to be overlooked and probably should be let go.

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Day’s Lesson

At bed time say,
   "Here end'th the day's lesson."
Sleep, knowing you passed
   the day's test.
And the dream people may come
   with a review,
      a commentary,
and hidden deep within
   the ordinariness,
the way forward.
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Money is No Deterrent to Pain

A friend has taught a course on healing grief for many years. Several years ago she received a call from one of the richer churches in town, asking if she would bring the course there. She put them off, saying she didn\’t think anyone there would be interested in her class. The reply was, \”Money is no deterrent to pain.\” She is now teaching the class for the 19th year.

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Themes in Residential and Householder Zen

Themes in Residential and Householder Zen is a useful addition to the ordinary writings about Zen spiritual practice because it compares and contrasts \”monastery\” practice and householder practice. Most Zen writings focus exclusively on monastery practice. And most other Buddhist traditions too.

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Charge to the Seeker

If when you go
  into the desert
    into the sweat lodge
      on a vision quest
        to drum or dance for days
          on pilgrimage to a far, distant shrine
And encounter the Sacred,
  receive a word, a vision
    face to face

If your first, unspoken, response
  is not: Oh! ... Shit!

Resume your quest
  for the Sacred is:
    more abundant
      more challenging
        more creative
          more different
than we, on our own
  can imagine.

Bring us more than we can imagine.
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Practicing Matthew 25:31-40 in Syria

Some in the United States are proposing entering another civil war.  And spending taxpayer dollars to kill and destroy with very little likelihood of making the world a better place.  Following the money shows that most of those in Congress voting for war have received significant sums from arms manufacturers.  This is an industry I\’d rather not support.  Given the lousy record of armed intervention, it\’s time to try something different.  Matthew 25:34-40 seems like a good start:

Then the king will say to those at his right hand, ‘Come, you that are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and gave you food, or thirsty and gave you something to drink? And when was it that we saw you a stranger and welcomed you, or naked and gave you clothing? And when was it that we saw you sick or in prison and visited you?’ And the king will answer them, ‘Truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me.

I\’ve written a letter to the President and my representatives in Congress about what I\’d like to see happen. I\’ve included the text below. You are welcome to use it as is, improve it, or put the ideas into your own words. The arms manufacturers are making their voices heard in Washington. You can do the same.

Dear President Obama,
I agree we must not stand by while the war in Syria rages. As brutal as the Assad regime is, the use of chemical warfare by the rebels erases any legitimacy they might have. So we should aid the non-combatants without supplying arms or air cover for the combatants. Adding another combatant to this already multi-sided war will not help the non-combatants. I am doubtful that chemical weapons can safely be destroyed without “boots on the ground” or unacceptably massive amounts of explosives, e.g. fuel-air bombs. Even with “boots on the ground” the collateral damage from “surgical strikes” and drone attacks have not lived up to the promises. And the ill will created by the deaths of non-combatants hurts our cause more than the correct targeting helps.

Counter-insurgency is hard, very hard, as history has shown. I was born during the Korean War and grew up during the Vietnam War. It seems my whole life the US has been intervening in civil wars, to little effect. Most of them are still going on, usually with some form of US presence. Only Vietnam where the US forces finally withdrew seems to have found some kind of peace.

In some ways, Syria is even worse. It is a civil, religious, and ethnic war with more than two sides. Syria may officially be a nation-state, but it is not a people. In a religious war, the other side is by definition, heretics and almost any method can be used to wipe them out. Genocide, not just domination, is the goal.

To intervene will be expensive in lives and money. And it is doubtful that we will fare any better this time than previously in Iraq, Afghanistan, Bosnia, Korea, etc.

So what can be done? The only “good guys” seem to be the non-combatants. So how can we support them? By making it easier to get out of the war zone. Refugees are already fleeing into Turkey and other neighboring countries. The estimated $200 million for the initial military foray would go a long ways towards feeding, clothing, and housing refugees. And to make the situation of the refugees not just tolerable, but actually make it a plus, I suggest adding educating to the above list. West Germany spent the time and money to bring the East Germans up to speed. East Germans are now a plus to their economy, not a drag. I’m told Mennonite missionaries have taught war refugees in Central America improved agricultural methods. With literacy and vocational training, the refugees will be welcome whether they return to Syria or emigrate. What would have been a time of suffering for the refuges could be turned into a chance at a better life than what they fled.

The old way of war does not work in civil wars, religious wars, and insurgencies, especially where one or more sides are not uniformed. Let’s try something new. In hard times, fanatics find it easy to recruit fighters and suicide bombers. When times are good, they find it a lot harder to gain a foothold. Let’s do something to bring good times to the developing world, starting with Syria.

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Carlos Santana on Music

Music is supposed to arouse your Holy Ghost that maybe you haven\’t been visiting lately.

I have a small amount of musical talent and a small amount of drive. I have watched a nephew with large amounts of both talent and drive try to make a living playing music. He has a degree in commercial music and nearly two decades experience. He also has a certain amount of leadership skill. After watching his senior recital, I watched him help a fellow student rehearse for her senior recital. Everyone looked to him to organize the session. He now is the permanent bass player for a band that tours nationally, on a bus, not in a van with a trailer. We are in his hometown for his younger brother\’s wedding. In conversation he confessed that the band is not playing enough dates to make him a living, so he is hanging on to his \”day\” job, running background checks.

So what I am expected to do with my small gifts? The truth of the above quote from Carlos Santana is finally sinking in. Music whether I am playing it, singing it, or just listening to it, invites the Spirit.

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On & Off the Cushion

Most writing on spiritual practice focuses on \”On the Cushion\” time.  That\’s the practice, but without putting practice into practice, it\’s wasted.  It is easier to find calm in a quiet room, so start there.  But unless I can keep at least some of that calm through my work in the world, I start my practice from the same place each time.  So I still sit in meditation, typically two half-hour periods per day.  But in many ways, the real practice comes in the time off the cushion.

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The Book of Awakening

The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo is a year\’s worth of daily devotionals. Each starts with a quote, a page long explanation, and 35 bullet points to work with.  The quotes come from sacred texts, mystics, and contemporary writers. The writing is clear, the language poetical, and the insight deep.  We are a month into it and remain enthused.  He has tackled a couple of our areas that need work (compulsive helping and too much thinking).  And done it gently.

One of the little oddities in books with daily entries is the presence of February 29.  Will I still be reading this book every day in 2016?  Probably.  But I will probably glance at it before then.  Greedy.

 

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Pearls Before Breakfast

Pearls Before Breakfast is an article in the Washington Post on an experiment they ran. They talked Joshua Bell, one of the finest classical violinists in the world, to take a street musician gig, playing 6 classical pieces in a Washington DC subway station during the morning commute. The questions they asked themselves were:

Each passerby had a quick choice to make, one familiar to commuters in any urban area where the occasional street performer is part of the cityscape: Do you stop and listen? Do you hurry past with a blend of guilt and irritation, aware of your cupidity but annoyed by the unbidden demand on your time and your wallet? Do you throw in a buck, just to be polite? Does your decision change if he\’s really bad? What if he\’s really good? Do you have time for beauty? Shouldn\’t you? What\’s the moral mathematics of the moment?

Mindfulness, being fully in the present, is part of the equation. Also, how rigidly scheduled are our lives? Han Shan would have had the freedom to stop and listen. But low- to mid-level government bureaucrats generally don\’t have much flexibility in their weekday schedule. Do you thing the result would have been different on a weekend or holiday afternoon?

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